Where I am at
our hands were never empty
A recognition of self through others
@tris · September 7, 2025
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No Man is an Island

John Donne


On Devotions

Upon Emergent Occasions

XVII Nunc lento sonitu dicunt, morieris

Trans. Now, this bell tolling softly for another, says to me: thou must die

XVII Meditation


No man is an island,

Entire of itself;

Every man is a piece of the continent,

A part of the main


If a clod be washed away by the sea,

Europe is the less,

As well as if a promontory were:

As well as if a manor of thy friend’s 

Or of thine own were


Any man’s death diminishes me

Because I am involved in mankind

And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;

It tolls for thee.


Continuations. [...] neither can we call this a begging of misery, or a borrowing of misery, as though we were not miserable enough of ourselves, but must fetch in more from the next house, in taking upon us the misery of our neighbors.

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We have entered the age of hyper-connectivity. This is where we can belong to countless communities while systemically alienating ourselves from genuine selfhood. There is something for you to name that manifests here: one cannot belong without mutual recognition, nor maintain authentic presence without visceral engagement. We represent the contemporary island condition— surrounded yet isolated. 


“Community” has been redefined so often it has come loose from itself.

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$Community$ noun

1 a unified body of individuals

1.1 a person

1.2 a recognition of self through others

1.3 a body of bodies

2 a commonplace

2.1 environmental state

2.2 nature vs nurture 

2.3 willing actively, wanting stagnantly

3 an evolution

3.1 offering, sharing

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The Milkmaid (1658–1661) Johannes Vermeer. Oil on canvas.

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To be someone

To be somewhere


In the body

A mouth that wants not 

just to taste but 

to be tasted back


Belonging is to sit at a table where every offering can also be a wound. Where the cut of the knife is inseparable from the slice of bread it makes possible.

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The community I found begins

In the steam rising off rice,

Fogging the doorway as I enter

Bodies pass close, but never collide


Someone lowers the flame beneath my pot—

I never had to ask

We are learning what our hands know

Before we do

They reach for knives, for plates,

Wipe on the same kitchen towel

Damp,

Stained


A spoon dips,

Tastes,

Adjusts,

In my palm, the weight of it

We begin

Our hands were never empty

We belong

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Note. I like to think I can put words into words if I try hard enough. But to write between the lines, is to write as honestly as I can.


This is a piece I left in pieces intentionally. It asks you to find community, in yourself first, and not in what the world promises to give you.


From August to April, these are the days I spent experimenting house recipes with matcha by the help of my willing taste testers. 
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I make matcha here.